Sex toys are investments into our own sexual health and pleasure, and choosing the right one based on our personal preferences is key. There are a variety of options available on the market – from clit suckers to masturbation sleeves – all with different purposes and stimulations in mind.
Read through the sections below to understand different considerations for finding the right toy to enhance your unique pleasure and comfort. Informed choices are one step closer to discovering better intimacy.
Understanding Your Preferences and Needs
The main classification for types of sex toys is around stimulation type. Here are the most common ones, to give you a better idea of what you might be drawn to:
- Clitoral (External) – Most women require some types of clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. Clitoral stimulation refers to touching the clitoris found externally on the vulva which contains many pleasurable nerve endings.
- G-Spot (Internal) – G-Spot stimulation refers to touching the internal wall of the vaginal canal on the front side of the body (think below your belly button, if you were to insert your fingers and curl them towards the sky).
- Anal – Anal stimulation refers mainly to finding pleasure through penetrating the anus, however some people enjoy only external stimulation of the anus. Anal stimulation can be enjoyed by anyone with a bum and is not limited to sex.
- Penile – Penile stimulation refers to arousal through touching the penis which can be reached through different ways, such as jerking, oral sex or rubbing.
- Combination – Combination stimulation refers to coupling any two or more types of stimulation in order for heightened pleasure or achieving orgasm.
Another thing to consider is how you plan on using the toy – for solo masturbation, partnered sex or masturbation, or both.
Some toys, like couples’ vibrators that can be controlled via phone app or remote, are specifically designed for partnered use. Most toys can be incorporated into sex, but if you’re looking to spice up your sex life with your partner, looking for couples’ toys can help refine your search.
If this is your first sex toy, then you’ll also want to consider experience level. Some toys are intentionally simpler in design for those just starting to use them, while others come with a variety of features and even customizable stimulations for those who are more experienced.
For example, if you like clitoral stimulation and are a beginner, we recommend a small bullet vibrator. And if you’re an experienced sex-toy enthusiast who loves clitoral stimulation, we recommend a clit sucker with vibrations that target deep into the vulva.
Types of Sex Toys and Their Benefits
There are many types of sex toys, all with different benefits. Here is a general list broken down by type:
- Vibrators: Bullet, wand, rabbit, G-spot, and external stimulators.
- Dildos: Realistic, silicone, glass, dual-ended, strap-on compatible.
- Anal Toys: Plugs, beads, prostate massagers, beginner vs. advanced options.
- Couples’ Toys: Remote-controlled, wearable vibrators, cock rings.
- Penis Toys: Strokers, masturbation sleeves, penis pumps, vibrating rings.
- BDSM and Kink Toys: Restraints, floggers, electrostimulation.
- High-Tech and Luxury Toys: App-controlled, eco-friendly, customizable toys.
Vibrators are intended for external clitoral stimulation, while dildos are intended for internal penetrative stimulation, however, there are many popular options that include a hybrid of both.
Anal toys are typically designed for internal use, and can vary from a plug that’s worn simply for a bit of added pressure, to prostate massagers that are designed in a curved shape to send vibrations into the male prostate.
Couples toys also come in a variety of shapes and intentions, from penis rings that make erections stronger while providing clitoral stimulation to the woman, to wearable vibrators that can be inserted vaginally and controlled by a partner via remote.
Penis toys include cock rings for stronger erections, along with toys where the penis can be inserted to simulate partnered sex, like strokers, sleeves and pumps.
BDSM accessories vary from light to highly experienced and include items that can add to a power dynamic, like restraints and ropes to new sensations through things like feathers or metal accessories that can be heated or cooled.
Sex-tech refers to high-end toys that have incorporated the most popular types of sex toys with the most advanced technologies to provide better stimulation, like patented vibrations and high-grade materials that feel like a second skin. They also offer connectivity to apps where you can customize your stimulation, and sometimes the ability for you and your partner to control each others’ toys virtually (ideal for long-distance relationships).
Key Factors To Consider When Choosing a Sex Toy
- Material Safety: Body-safe materials like silicone, glass, and stainless steel are important to ensure you have a comfortable pleasure experience without compromise.
- Size and Shape: Finding a toy that suits your comfort level means that your expectations will, at the very least, meet reality (and hopefully exceed expectation).
- Power and Intensity: Look for adjustable settings for different levels and types of stimulation.
- Noise Level: Some motors are simple and discreet, while others are intentionally powerful. Find the balance that works best for you and your situation.
- Waterproofing: Ideal for bath or shower use, waterproof sex toys are versatile. Know the difference between waterproof and water-resistant (not fully submersible).
- Rechargeable vs. Battery-Operated: Battery-operated options are typically more affordable to start but require continued changing of batteries, while higher-end, rechargeable toys are more sustainable and convenient.
Best Sex Toys Based on Experience Level
For beginners, we recommend small vibrators, soft dildos and simple anal plugs.
For intermediate users, we recommend dual-functions toys, toys with stronger vibrations, and more advanced types of penetrative toys.
For advanced users, we recommend app-controlled toys, high-powered wand vibrators and bondage kits.
If you’re wondering what level you fit into, we always recommend starting simpler and working your way into more intense pleasures based on your preferences.
Budget Considerations
Budget, of course, is a main factor when deciding on a toy. Sex toys range from affordable options (around $50) to premium options (around $200) and the difference lies in the quality of materials, technology and features. Check out our guide on the differences between sex toy price ranges.
If you’re just starting your research, check out affordable brands like Picobong and premium brands like LELO to see what the differences are.
Be cautious of cheap products, even if you’re thought is to try something out before investing in a premium option, you want to avoid potentially problematic materials at all costs. It’s rare that someone regrets purchasing a toy they’ve chosen after personal considerations. In fact, many are repeat customers.
Testing and Exploring Safely
- Reading product reviews and guides before purchasing.
- Starting slow and experimenting with different sensations.
- Checking for return policies and discreet shipping options.
Like with any online purchase these days, combing through reviews is your best bet to finding out authentic opinions about products – even more so when they’re something as intimate as sex toys. Check the feedback on product pages, Amazon and other reseller sites.
If you really don’t know where to start, try a standard vibrator or rabbit vibrator. They’re extremely versatile and allow you to experiment with internal vs. external stimulation. Always start slowly with new sensations and listen to what your body likes.
Other important considerations for purchasing toys are return policies and discreet shipping options. Most brands allow returns within a short time frame so long as the device has not been used and is in resellable condition. Some brands also offer manufacturer-defect warranties which allow you to replace your toy at no cost if the product is defective. When it comes to shipping, look up if the packaging is branded and if the “from” field gives it away.
Maintenance and Hygiene
To effectively clean your sex toy, you’ll need sex toys cleaner or mild soap, water and potentially a cotton swab. Make sure that your toy is 100% waterproof (different from water resistant) before submerging it for cleaning. If your toy has crevices that are hard to reach by hand, use a cotton swab to clean them. Clean your sex toys immediately after every use to ensure they are clean and bacteria-free next time you use them.
In order to keep your toy in the best condition, you’ll also need to use toy-safe lubricants. Some silicone-based lubricants can deteriorate silicone-based toys, so make sure you read the description to see if it’s safe to use on all materials. Your best bet is to buy lubricant from the same company you’re buying a toy from.
If your toy has visible deterioration or wear of any sort, especially electrical, you should no longer use it. If you reach out to customer care and your toy isn’t covered by warranty, you’ll most likely get a discount towards a new toy anyway.
Conclusion
Selecting the right sex toy really comes down to personal preference – stimulation, desires and budget. Start simple and explore different features to find out what you enjoy. Explore luxury brands and read trusted reviews to see what’s available and decide on your pleasure must-haves.
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