These days, opportunity and circumstance are taking us to farther flung-out places for education, employment, or what have you. Whatever the reason, there might come a time that you find yourself away from your partner for a stretch of time much longer than you’re comfortable with.
Rather than letting the distance determine whether or not you should be together, you can take control of the situation in ways that will keep the relationship – and the passion – alive from afar.
Stay Connected
No-brainer, of course, but we are not suggesting that you simply schedule a weekly FaceTime or Skype chat. Now you’re able to keep in touch in real-time and affordably with messaging apps like Whatsapp and WeChat. In addition to the regular face-to-screen-to-screen-to-face contact, you can always be engaged in a running conversation about what’s going on in your day, what’s on your mind at that moment, or something that made you think of them right just this second.
- Lusty long-distance tip: spice things up every now and then with an apropos-of-nothing ‘remember when?’ message. Like: ‘Remember that one time on the rooftop in Madrid?’ and add a couple of details about what made it such a hot experience. If you’re dealing with a big time difference, this is a sexy text message for your partner to wake up to.
Tease Each Other
Another fantastic way to keep the flame alive in your long-term relationship is to take the time to tease each other and build anticipation. Don’t underestimate the power of naughty pics. And no, we’re not talking about explicit nudes, just simple teasing pictures of the lace of your bra or the picture of your legs in a dress.
Send these teasing pics to your partner when they least expect it to keep them on edge and you always on their mind. Your partner will appreciate the surprise of receiving a picture of your bra in the middle of the day, just because you wanted to ask their opinion of which color they prefer.
Another great way to tease your partner is to let them know that you’re thinking about masturbating or messaging them right as you’re about to do that. A simple message like “I’ve been horny all day thinking of you. About to have a little solo session” will drive your partner mad once they read it.
Add in even more spice by telling them that you’ll be thinking about them while masturbating. If your partner reads the message in real-time, be aware you might receive a call that can turn into a hot phone sex session.
- Lusty long-distance tip: instead of having regular phone sex, make things spicier and try sexting while masturbating. Tease your partner by telling them what you’re doing, and maybe try ordering them not to touch themselves while they know you are.
Naughty Surprises
Long-term relationships are perfect for some spontaneous naughty surprises. As you go about your days, give your partner naughty tasks to perform or ask them to do that to you. For example, you might ask your partner to slip their hand underneath their shirt and pinch their nipple while they’re in the bathroom on their lunch break.
If they comply, you reward them for it in whatever way you both agree. The reward could come in the form of sexy pictures, sharing fantasies, and so much more. If your partner refuses the task, you can come up with punishments, like abstaining from masturbation until you allow them to touch them again.
Communication is key here, so don’t shy away from communicating your desires and fantasies with your partner. Find out each other’s boundaries, what you like and dislike, and then enjoy the adventure together. It will be so much more fun when you know that a naughty task might be coming your way.
- Lusty long-distance tip: record naughty voice messages and surprise each other this way. You can ask your partner to record saying something, in particular, you like to hear. Or, simply explain a sexual fantasy they had with you in mind the other day. This will help build intimacy and keep the flame alive.
Create Benchmarks
If it’s a long-term, long-distance situation you’re getting into, you need to make plans to bridge the distance at some point. All of the tips on how to keep a long-distance relationship going only work so much, but there comes the point where someone’s absence from your life makes it impossible to keep up a romantic relationship.
So, create plans to see each other, whether they come to you, you come to them, or you meet somewhere in between. Not only is this an opportunity for all that pent-up sexual desire to be released in spectacular fashion, but it will also be something for the both of you to look forward to and be a reminder of why you’re both committed to the LDR in the first place.
- Lusty long-distance tip: DO NOT travel to where your partner is and surprise them by showing up on their doorstep. Just don’t. Anticipation is much sexier than surprise.
Get Comfortable on Camera
It can be hard to settle into, but it’s a necessity when it comes to having a happy long-distance relationship: Skype sex.
Sure, you don’t have to do it. But if you’re not writing James Joyce-level lusty letters to your sweet, the sexual passion you and your long-distance lover have for each other won’t have any kind of outlet.
It’s just a matter of getting started (and taking care of some sexy movie magic beforehand), and to get it started right, you need to throw your insecurities out the window. It feels awkward to start off, so rather than acknowledging the perceived weirdness of the situation, do the talking with your body instead.
- Lusty long-distance tip: Having a sexual experience via FaceTime or Skype shouldn’t be treated as any normal erotic encounter. When you’re in person, you don’t just say, ‘so should we start now?’. That’s not how it works in real life, nor in the online sphere. Ease into the experience with compliments for your partner, and the rest will follow.
Play Together
Just because you’re in two different locations, it doesn’t mean you can’t have fun with sex toys. So, spice things up with your long-distance relationship partner by investing in a few sex toys you both can use when you have phone sex.
You can opt for something like a vibrating cock ring for him and ask him to wear it during phone sex. Or, get him a masturbation sleeve like the F1S V2 so that he could use it during one of the sessions, and you could play with the fantasy of you being the one pleasuring him.
If you both enjoy penetrative sex, then using a dildo or an insertable vibrator can also help you play with the fantasy of him being inside of you during phone sex sessions. Instead of saying “my dildo is inside of me” to your partner, try something like “you are inside of me, and it feels amazing.”
Also, using toys like SILA or ORA 3 can be perfect for helping you imagine it’s your partner giving you oral pleasure while you’re on the phone. Different sex toys can help you switch things up during phone sex sessions, so none are ever the same.
- Lusty long-distance tip: let your partner pick the sex toy you’ll use in advance. The anticipation of your next session will be much sweeter, and giving your partner the control of your pleasure will surely turn them on.