Whether you’re getting it regularly, not at all – or hey, maybe too often – sex is still an often bewildering subject for many people. Sure, you may know the mechanics of it, not to mention the etiquette involved in sex, but chances are there is a thing or two that you’ve heard that might be way off the map. Like for instance, some preconceived notions that you’ve just always accepted as true, or perhaps never took the time to wrap your mind around.
Some of these might include the old wives’ tales of sex, like going blind from masturbating, or pregnancy as the result of oral sex (both are false, duh). And if you believe those, then I am sorry but we can’t help you, as it seems you may be too far gone from reality. What we’re talking about more specifically here are the notions that many people still believe, that have outcomes or ramifications ranging from frustrating to downright dangerous.
Here’s the LELO lowdown on sex myths and lusty legends, as well as the reality, which is sometimes even more fantastic than the fictions.
Section 1: On Matters of Masturbation
The Myth: Women Don’t Masturbate
This one never ceases to confound, and we’re not sure where this particular myth even comes from – puritanical ideas of femininity maybe? At any rate, it can be construed as harmful because the idea that women ‘don’t’ pleasure themselves also can be taken to mean that women ‘shouldn’t’ pleasure themselves.
Consider the fact that it’s generally assumed that all males masturbate; that this is not only assumed but also accepted, and you’re on the right track to seeing the double standard on display here. Logically, of course, this makes no sense: women have the same entitlement and capability for pleasuring themselves as men.
It goes without saying that you do not need to masturbate, however there’s a lot of research out there that will tell you that women who masturbate have higher self-esteem and body image. So there you go, take that as you like.
The Myth: Guys Can’t Stop Masturbating
Yeah yeah, we’re well aware of all the very positive benefits of masturbation and how very common it is. However what gets tiring is the notion that men in particular are biologically wired to need to do it on a regular basis?
Once again, we’re here to tell you a resounding ‘no’ on this particular myth. No matter which gender you ascribe to, no one absolutely has to masturbate. Masturbation is a purely pleasurable act, and one you can elect to do or not. And for that, it is arguably even more enjoyable
The Myth: Masturbating is Bad
When it comes to pleasure, the old adage ‘too much of a good thing’ fortunately does not apply. Did you know that there are so many health benefits of masturbation and that it can relieve all kinds of issues related to PMS, stress, insomnia and more? Also no matter how regularly you indulge, masturbation has absolutely no ill effect on your greater health in general, and your reproductive health in particular.
Section 2: Hollywood Glamour
The Myth: Less-Than-Perfect Sex is a Disappointment
Hollywood movie producers sure do have a lot to answer for. For one thing, how many times are you all going to have us believe that first-time sex with a new partner is always instantly orgasmic, ergonomic, well-lit, perfectly groomed and, you know, NOT awkward? Real-life will convince you otherwise.
Related Myth: Quickies Don’t Count
Carrying on from previous, this cleaned-up, soft-focus version Hollywood sex long aso posits that long, slow sex is the only meaningful kind there is. However there is something to be said for that kind of sex that is quick and taken where one can get it. Quickie sex – be it with a long-term partner or some gorgeous stranger – is less meaningful for being unglamorous or even unromantic.
The Myth: You Can Be ‘Too Old’ for Sex
Yet again, pop culture propaganda is the prime culprit. As we’re constantly bombarded with lustful imagery on every screen in our vicinity, you will notice that the demographics of beautiful bodies is unwaveringly youthful. Fact: sex isn’t just for lithe twentysomethings. Your parents and even your grandparents were getting it on even after you learned where babies come from.
The Myth: Passion Dies Post-Marriage
When do people stop having sex? Or rather – do they ever? Sure you’ve snickered at an eye-rolling joke about husbands and wives cooling off sexually after the honeymoon is done to the point of cliche, but what’s the reality?
Fortunately, research conducted by the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University in 2010 suggests that marriage is a net positive when it comes to sex. Among respondents aged between 25 and 59, a quarter of married people reported having sex two to three times each week. Among single people surveyed, only 5% reported the same frequency of lovemaking. Of course, that’s not to say maintaining intimacy over the years is easy, but it is definitely doable.
Section 3: Size Matters
The Myth: It’s All in the Hands (or Feet)
There’s absolutely no correlation between what size shoe he takes and what’s underneath his trousers. The same goes for that rather ridiculous notion that hand-span (the distance between the tip of your pinky to the tip of your thumb) also bears relation to size.
The Myth: Bigger is Better
Okay for the people in the back, HAVING A LARGE PENIS DOES NOT GUARANTEE GOOD SEX. Nor does it guarantee multiple orgasms, or anything else for that matter. What does guarantee good sex is not having a bigger than normal penis but rather the willingness to please your partner and an abiding enthusiasm for shared intimacy.
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