What do you need for mind blowing sex? Actually, just one thing – the right person, everything else is secondary.
What we don’t realize is that sometimes deliberately removing the extras and taking the most basic road to sexual pleasure can be the most intense. We’ve already made the case for minimalist sex, and this time we’ll take it up a notch up and explore sexual sensory deprivation.
Sensory Deprivation and What It Reveals
Sensory deprivation is a deliberate removal of stimuli from our senses.
The reason might vary, nevertheless it can reveal a lot about the way we are wired. For instance, science once held a belief that we are kept awake and conscious by the constant process of filtering and processing of stimuli from our surroundings.
They hypothesized that if that input was to be removed, our brain would slip in a sort of hibernation. However, when they tried to prove this in the experimental setting of a sensory deprivation tank, the opposite was revealed. When all stimuli are removed, instead of hibernating, the increases with activity: visions, auditory hallucinations, and other perceptual distortions. In other words, without the distractions, the mind tends to go into overdrive.
Sensory Deprivation and Sex
For the ideal intro into sensory deprived sex, we recommend building tension before the act itself. Start with some teasing, kissing, and light foreplay, like a bit of dry humping. Once both of you are aroused, instead of progressing further, perform a full deprivation.
Do not play with each other in this phase. The point is to reduce sensory inputs until the senses get sharpened. Try covering your partner’s eyes and taking them to a warm bath in a dark and silent bathroom. If a bathtub is not available, a cosy bed will do. If it feels right, you can stay in the water until it cools to around body temperature.
Generally, you’ll want this phase to last anywhere from five to twenty minutes, but not long enough for arousal to dissipate. This phase will also allow the tension to grow further merely through anticipation of hot sex, which is probably the most powerful aphrodisiac known to mankind.
You can think of your partner’s sense of anticipation as your great ally throughout the session, and the absence of visual and verbal clues of what is about to happen next will increase erotic tension.
Lead your partner with their eyes covered to a bed or, even better, prepare a mat on the floor for this purpose. Cover it with a large towel so you don’t have to worry about dripping water from the bath. You can slowly and mindfully wipe your partner with it, or, if the space is warm enough, your partner can remain wet.
Sight is our most important sense and removing it will heightened the mind. Assuming they spent some time in complete darkness while taking a bath, by the time you take them to bed they will already be a bit disoriented, and their mind will be ready to play by your rules. Without the eyes to make sense of the situation, other senses will be striving to make sense of it.
If the two of you are verbal, you can describe to them in detail how you plan to have sex with them. After all, the scenario is also a power play in which you play the dominant role.
Or you might prefer the complete silence and even use earplugs on your partner. Especially if you plan on using toys that buzz, the earplugs will increase the sense of surprise and keep the partner’s mind in erotic suspense. If you both like that game, you can bind your partner to control and restrict their range of movement.
To make the most of sensory deprived sex, go slow, let your imagination run wild and try using diverse poses, imaginative sequence of moves, and a different pace than the two of you are used to in your everyday sex. But most of all, don’t be selfish when you’re in control. Enjoy your role of the director of your partner’s sensory deprived pleasure trip and both of you can enjoy it.
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