The perception of lonely women with sex toys has changed. Not only have sex toys become innovative in design and performance, our perceptions of them have also evolved.
Sexual satisfaction is considered a human right, and sex toys have conquered many new ‘audiences’, including the queer community. As diverse as our sexualities are bodies are, so too should sex toys be.
Sex toys, in addition to helping us feel good, support us in a process of personal discovery, which is especially important for LGBTQ+ people. As connection tools, they can boost intimacy among and create new ways of sharing pleasure.
What To Look for in LGBTQ+ Inclusive Sex Toys
Gender-neutral sex toys can be very useful for people with gender dysphoria. A toy like a wand can be used with equal enjoyment by anyone since its intensely vibrating head provides pleasure regardless of who uses it.
Transitions add an additional layer to the evolution of pleasure. For this reason, the best LGBTQ+ sex toys are those that consider all types of physical conformations and not just the most heteronormative ones.
Toys that can be shared by same sex couples, like double ended vibrators and strap-ons, are very inclusive, while anal toys are among the most queer-friendly sex toys.
Suction toys are also very often enjoyed by people who are transitioning as the sucking sensation can be very rewarding for many different anatomies, in different stages of the transition.
Best LGBTQ+ Inclusive Sex Toys
Gender-Neutral Vibrators
These are non binary sex toys that can be used with equal enjoyment by all people. They have unconventional shapes – like cones or small, oval shapes like LILY 3, and they can work their magic on different erogenous zones.
Strap-Ons and Harnesses
These are the best option for homosexual couples, especially lesbian. Harnesses allow you to insert vibrators or dildos with a more or less phallic shape, often with a double end, so that they can be used by two women at the same time. Strap-ons are harnesses that, more often than not, already have one or two dildos or vibrators as part of them.
The best strap ons for queer couples, especially lesbians, are those that are specifically made for women, with women in mind. They’re softer and have a more playful look than the classic model and they present the opportunity to pack a clitoral massager instead of a dildo for people who prefer external stimulation to internal one. Strap-ons are often used also by non lesbian, for example by people who are transitioning.
Double-Ended Dildos
They can be used by two partners with vaginas at the same time, enhancing the connection and intimacy between them.
Remote-Controlled Sex Toys
They are perfect for erotic games, in some cases even at a great distance. One partner wears them and the other operates them. They can be enjoyed by straight and queer couples alike.
How To Choose the Right LGBTQ+ Sex Toy
The first thing to look for in an LGBTQ+ sex toy is your anatomy and personal identity.
Sex toys are very useful in fighting gender dysphoria – from packers for trans men to dildos of increasing size for trans women. Choose a sex toy that adapts to your anatomy and reaffirms your gender.
Don’t compromise on quality. Choose toys made with body-safe materials and with shapes suitable for the use you have in mind. Only choose objects with a flared base or with a retrieval cord for anal stimulation and prioritize well-known brands.
For sex toys to be used with a partner, favor comfort and adaptability. Objects that lend themselves to various uses can be used to stimulate different erogenous zones.
Brands Supporting LGBTQ+ Inclusivity
Brands that support LGBTQ+ inclusion are those that not only provide a product offering especially dedicated to LGBTQ+ people, but also those that offer a range of sensations, shapes and functions. Think shapes disconnected from anatomy that can be used by anyone with equal enjoyment.
The best ethical and inclusive manufacturers towards LGBTQ+ people are the brands that strive to create with respect not only for the health of users, but also for the environment around them. They are brands that do not see the LGBTQ+ community as a mere commercial opportunity but as a chance to expand the concept of pleasure and fulfillment and, ultimately, that of love.
Conclusion
If you are an LGBTQ+ person looking for a sex toy for you and your partner, always start from your needs, what gives you pleasure and what type of stimulation you are looking for. Choose a serious manufacturer who cares about the quality and safety of the products and who supports the LGBTQ+ community.
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