Are you completely new to the world of sex toys and are looking for a comprehensive beginner’s guide to vibrator play? Then you’ve come to the right place.
Self-pleasure is a deeply personal journey that offers many benefits for your sexual wellness and overall wellbeing. Exploring your body in a safe, intentional way allows you to learn the unique pathways to better pleasure, discover what feels good, and help you develop a better self-awareness.
While sexual exploration can happen without sex toys and vibrators, incorporating the right vibe (or a variety of vibrators!) can help enhance the experience and make it more pleasurable.
Vibrators are widely used yet still greatly misunderstood. One common myth people still believe is that once you start using a vibrator, you won’t be able to have an orgasm without it. We’re here to tell you that’s not true.
Vibrators won’t cause desensitization, and you’ll still be able to enjoy partnered sex (maybe even more so, by the way), so don’t worry.
In this beginner’s guide to sex toys, we’ll cover everything you need to know about the best self-pleasure toys, orgasm tips, and how to use a vibrator to enhance your self-pleasure sessions.
Choosing Your First Vibrator
Alright, let’s start with choosing the right vibrator for you. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed or uncertain – there are so many different vibrators available on the market.
You want to choose a toy that meets your comfort level, suits your personal sexual preferences (internal or external stimulation, or both), and doesn’t make you intimidated to use it.
Things To Consider Bedore Buying Your First Vibrator
Here are some essential things you want to consider and know before you make that first purchase:
Size & Shape
Vibrators come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. Some are small and discreet, like bullet vibrators. They’re designed for external stimulation and are perfect for travel.
There are also larger vibrators that are often designed for either full-body stimulation (wand vibrators) or internal stimulation (rabbit vibrators). They will pack a punch and offer deeper, rumbly vibrations.
It’s normal for beginners to go for something smaller and discreet as their first vibe to get a feel of the vibrator play.
If you want something small yet designed for internal stimulation, opt for a sleek and slender G-spot massager like Gigi 3.
Materials
Body-safe vibrators are made from non-porous, medical-grade materials such as silicone, ABS plastic, stainless steel, or glass.
Premium silicone is popular because of its soft texture, ease of cleaning, and body-safe properties.
Glass and stainless steel toys are often less flexible and feel firmer, but they’re a great choice for temperature play because both materials are easy to warm up or cool down.
When you buy a vibrator, always check that it has body-safe materials that won’t cause allergies or irritation and won’t harbor harmful bacteria after use.
Intensity Levels
Now, all vibrators have different intensity levels. Some can be mild, while others have a range from mild to intense, and some vibrators are very intense right off the bat.
For a beginner, something that has a wide range of intensities might be the best option. This way, you have plenty of options, and you can start at the lower settings and increase the vibration power as you get more comfortable with your new toy.
Rechargeable vs. Battery-Operated
Most high-tech vibrators are now rechargeable, but you can still find battery-operated devices.
Recheargable vibrators are more convienient and powerful, and in many cases much quieter than battery-powered vibrators (especially the larger size ones).
However, battery-powered vibrators are often more budget-friendly. So, if budget is a consideration, you might want to choose a battery-operated vibe.
One thing to note with battery-powered toys is that they can run out of battery at any time, so you want to always have some on hand so you can replace them when needed.
Best Types of Vibrators for Beginners
Selecting the best beginner sex toys can be daunting, but we’re here to guide you through your first experience! There are many different types of vibrators available, but some are designed for more advanced users.
Here are four popular best beginner sex toys you may want to consider:
- Bullet vibrators: These small, discreet vibes are perfect for external clitoral stimulation or stimulation of other external erogenous zones. They’re often user-friendly, featuring a single button or dial to adjust the intensity and turn it on and off. They’re also perfect for travel or discreet use with a partner.
- Wand vibrators: Wand massagers are often larger and very powerful and designed for full-body stimulation. They’re prefect for those who want powerful, deep and rumbly vibrations. Wands are very easy to operate and handle solo or with a partner, which makes them a very versatile toy to have in your collection.
- G-spot vibrators: These toys are designed with a curved tip for precise internal G-spot stimulation. However, you can also use them externally on the vulva area and the clit, too.
- Air-pulse vibrators: One of the newer technology vibrators that create waves of air that gently stimulate the clitoris without direct contact. It’s supposed to mimic the sensation of oral sex and is a perfect option for those who are sensitive and enjoy subtle types of stimulation.
Preparing for Solo Play with a Vibrator
To make first-time masturbation with sex toys as enjoyable as possible, spend some time preparing beforehand and setting up your space to create a relaxing and comfortable environment.
Set The Mood
Create a comfortable and relaxing space where you can focus on your body and all the sensations without interruptions. Your environment plays a huge role in how you receive pleasure.
Light a favorite scented candle, dim the lights, play soothing music or set soft blankets and pillows under you and around you. Do whatever helps you feel at ease before you play.
Self-pleasure is a time to practice self-care and self-love, so treat it like a special occasion – something you deserve and look forward to. It will make all the difference.
Use Lube
One of the best ways to enhance the sensations and pleasure during solo play is to use a high-quality lube. While natural lubrication is great, there is absolutely no harm (only benefits) to adding even more lubrication.
Lube helps reduce the friction so the vibrator glides smoothly against your skin, which is essential if you’re using penetrative vibrators.
More lubrication during solo play will greatly intensify the pleasure you experience and will make you much more sensitive to stimulation. It will also help prevent any irritation or discomfort.
Water-Based vs. Silicone-Based Lube
Just like there are many toys available, there are plenty of lubes for you to choose from. You’re probably wondering: which lube do I choose?
Well, when it comes to solo play with vibrators, water-based might be the best way to go.
Water-based lubes are compatible with all types of self-pleasure toys, leave no residue or marks on clothing, sheets, furniture and are super easy to clean up. It essentially feels like your natural lubrication.
Silicone-based lubes last longer, though, and offer a silkier feel. However, they might not be compatible with all sex toys. Silicone-based lube may degrade certain silicone toys over time, so you may want to avoid using silicone on silicone.
Explore All Erogenous Zones
How well do you know all of your erogenous zones besides the genitals and nipples? Your journey to sexual exploration doesn’t have to be confined to genitals only.
There are plenty of areas on your body that feel great when stimulated, such as:
- Neck
- Inner thighs
- Ears
- Nipples
- Valley between your breasts
- Inner wrists
- Lower stomach
You might have other areas that are highly sensitive, too. Why not use your new vibrator to explore and discover those highly sensitive areas that respond to touch before you dive into genital stimulation?
Experiment with erogenous zones to learn the full range of your body’s pleasure capabilities. This holistic approach will help you build anticipation, foster relaxation, and make the overall experience much more pleasurable.
How To Use a Vibrator for the First Time
So, how to self-pleasure using a vibrator? Well, everyone’s different, and you may have different preferences from someone else. However, here are our best tips for pleasurable solo play with a vibrator.
Take what you like, leave what you don’t – experimentation is key!
Start Slow
When you’re new to vibrator play, it’s best to ease into it slowly. As we already discussed, spend some time exploring your erogenous zones outside the genitals and build arousal.
Turn yourself on and even tease yourself. Engage in a solo form of foreplay.
Test out how different patterns and strengths of your new vibrator feel against those highly sensitive areas of your body. Play around with it, and when you’re ready, bring the vibrator to your most sensitive zones.
Clitoral Stimulation Tips
The clitoris has thousands of nerve endings, which makes it highly receptive to pleasurable sensations.
It might be small, but the clitoris itself has different areas that might feel different when stimulated.
Direct vs. Indirect Stimulation
Some might prefer to hold the vibrator right in the center of the clitoris and enjoy some direct stimulation. For some, it might be a bit too intense and even uncomfortable.
If direct vibrations feel too intense, position the vibrator slightly off to either side of the clitoris. Some people might enjoy the right side stimulation more, while others find that the left side has a much better feel.
See what feels good for you.
If that’s still too much, you can ease the pressure and hold the vibrator gently over the clitoris (hover above it).
To soften the vibrations even further, consider adding a barrier between the clitoris, like panties, a blanket, or even your hand or fingers.
Having panties over the clit while using a vibe not only softens the impact of the vibes but adds extra texture, which can feel super good.
Patterns & Pressure
Most vibrators offer various speeds and pulsation patterns. Try different combinations of pressure and speed to see what feels the best. Also, don’t be afraid to shift the toy’s angle to find the best one for you.
This type of mindful experimentation may help you fine-tune your orgasms and really hone in on what makes your toes curl from pleasure.
Internal Stimulation Tips
If you’re using a vibrator to explore vaginal penetration and G-spot pleasure, here are some things you may want to try to maximize the pleasure:
Move Slowly
Really taking your time to warm up and get fully aroused is even more important before penetration play than for clitoral-only solo play.
You want to make sure your body is well-lubricated and open for penetration, so don’t rush into it.
Before you dive inside, spend some time playing with the clit, and exploring other parts of the vulva. Hold the toy against the entrance of the vagina, and see how it feels.
Once you’re fully relaxed, you can gently slide inside and start exploring different internal spots and how they feel when stimulated.
If you notice any discomfort, pause. You may want to ease the intensity of the vibrations and thrusting motions or simply add more lube and give your body more time to warm up.
Combine Clitoral Stimulation with Internal Stimulation
The best of both worlds is simultaneous clitoral and G-spot stimulation. It can lead to very intense and powerful blended orgasms that are deep and, for some, a full-body experience.
Use the bullet vibe on the clit, while you use a G-spot massager (or your fingers) to stimulate your G-spot internally.
If you have a G-spot massager only, use it for internal stimulation while you use your fingers for external clitoral stimulation.
Listen to your body and its signals, play around with what feels best for both types of stimulation, and see where that takes you.
Experiment with Different Techniques
A great thing about vibrators is that they’re extremely versatile, even the small bullet vibrators. No self-pleasure session has to be the same if you experiment with different techniques each time you play:
- Pulsing: With clitoral vibrators, instead of holding them in one place, consider mimicking the pulsing motion by pressing it to the clit before easing it off and pressing it against it once more. You can do it slowly or quickly, whichever feels good.
- Circular motions: Move the vibrator in small circles around the clitoris or the G-spot to stimulate a wider area and alternate the intensity of the vibrations.
- Play with speeds: Don’t let your body get used to the same stimulation by switching the speeds between the lower and higher settings. This may heighten arousal and lead to more intense orgasms.
- Change positions: Consider lying on your back with legs spread wide or knees pulled into your chest. Lay on the side with legs wide open or closed. Turn to lie on the belly with legs pressed together or one leg bent at a knee. Different positions offer different sensations, so play around to find one that works for you.
Common Mistakes To Avoid as a Beginner
It’s normal to make mistakes when you’re a complete novice. Don’t sweat it if you do make any of these mistakes! Next time, you’ll know what to avoid.
Going Too Fast, Too Soon
It’s normal to get excited and jump straight into the highest setting. But this may overwhelm your body and not give you the best experience.
Start at the lowest intensity and build it up from there gradually. Patience is your friend here!
Skipping Lubrication
Even if you’re using an external vibe, friction can make the whole experience not so pleasurable. Lack of lubrication may lead to irritation, and even discomfort. So, always apply a generous amount of lube.
Not Cleaning Your Vibrator
Hygiene is critical for your sexual health, so don’t skip on cleaning your sex toys often! Bacteria can accumulate on toys if they’re not properly cleaned, which can lead to infections.
Always clean your vibrators before and after each use and store them properly in between uses.
Ignoring Your Body’s Signals
Don’t ignore your body’s signals – if you feel discomfort, pain, numbness, or overstimulation, take a break.
Building a strong connection with your body and sexuality means listening to your body and what it tells you.
So, take your time, breathe, and be mindful of how your body reacts to what you do to it.
Benefits of Solo Play with Vibrators
There are so many health and sexual wellness benefits for solo play with vibrators:
Increases Self-Awareness and Body Confidence
Regular self-pleasure sessions when you explore your body and sexuality can deepen your connection to your body.
By discovering what touch and type of stimulation brings you pleasure, you learn to appreciate how your body reacts to different stimuli.
Also, paying attention and being mindful of your body’s reactions and how things feel helps foster that connection.
Enhances Orgasm Intensity
Vibrators may help increase the intensity of your orgasms, and for some people, it might be the only way to achieve an orgasm. This doesn’t mean other forms of stimulation are bad or worse. It’s just that vibrators offer a wider range of pleasurable sensations and orgasmic experiences.
Reduces Stress and Improves Sleep
Stress relief is one of the many benefits of masturbation. Orgasms promote the release of feel-good hormones that reduce cortisol (stress hormone), help you feel more relaxed, and may improve the quality of your sleep.
Encourages Better Intimacy with Partners
When you understand your body well and are confident in your own pleasure, you’ll notice that your partnered sex experiences also improve.
That’s because when you know what type of touch and stimulation gets you off, you’ll be able to utilize that knowledge with a partner and have a much more satisfying sex life.
This knowledge may also spark curiosity in your partner, which can lead to a new level of openness in your relationship that allows you to explore new toys together.
How To Care for Your Vibrator
To ensure your vibrator serves you for many years to come and that your sexual health and overall wellbeing aren’t compromised, it’s important you care for your vibrator properly.
Cleaning & Storing Your Toy
Most silicone, ABS plastic, stainless steel, and glass toys can be safely cleaned with gentle soap and lukewarm water. You may also use a specialized sex toy cleaner.
If your vibrator has mechanical parts that aren’t supposed to be underwater, stick with wiping it down with a damp cloth or using a sex toy cleaner.
Always allow your sex toys to dry completely before storing them away. You can let them air dry or pat them down with a lint-free towel.
Once the toy is dry, store it in a lint-free pouch or a box away from dust and direct sunlight or heat.
These practices will help your sex toys last longer, remain in great shape, and help avoid any health concerns like infections.
Charging and Battery Care
If your vibrator is rechargeable, follow the manufacturer’s guidelines. Avoid keeping the toy plugged in for extended periods of time so it doesn’t overcharge, which can shorten the battery life.
You should usually charge the new vibrator to the full before using it for the first time.
If you have a battery-operated vibrator, then always remove the batteries from the toy when you’re not using it to prevent corrosion.
Waterproof vs. Water-resistant
Before you plunge your new vibe into water, always check whether it’s waterproof. Not all vibrators are made equally; even more expensive high-tech toys may not be 100% waterproof.
Check the packaging and the manual to determine whether the toy is waterproof or only water-resistant. If you see an IPX7 marking in the manual, you can safely use and clean the toy – it’s completely waterproof.
Exploring More Advanced Play
Once you nail the basics, you might be ready to elevate your self-pleasure routine. Here are some more advanced ways to broaden your pleasure horizons:
Try Dual Stimulation Vibrators
Dual stimulation vibrators offer simultaneous external and internal stimulation of the clitoris and G-spot. These vibrators are often referred to as rabbit vibrators, like Soraya.
Combining the sensations can be an exciting experience. Be patient, though, as getting a hang of things might take some time.
Consider a suction dual stimulation toy like Enigma if you like suction toys.
Incorporate Temperature Play
If you want to try temperature play to enhance solo play, you can get a vibrator with a heating function. It can be a fun way to switch things up and enjoy different types of stimulation.
An easier way to explore temperature play is to warm up or cool down your sex toys yourself. Most silicone, glass, and stainless steel sex toys can be safely warmed or cooled before use.
Submerge the toy in a bowl of warm or cold water for a few minutes (if it’s waterproof), and then see how the toy feels on your body. You may want to test it on other areas of your body before you go in for the genitals.
Explore Edging
Edging is a sexual practice of intentionally delaying orgasms. It means you bring yourself to the edge of an orgasm before pausing or reducing stimulation to prolong arousal.
Repeat that a couple of times to build the tension and arousal before you finally allow yourself to climax. Many people report that orgasms feel very powerful after edging.
The Bottom Line
Using a vibrator for the first time to enhance solo play can be intimidating but extremely rewarding. It’s a great way to discover your body and sexuality better, build confidence in your pleasure, and feel sexually empowered.
When trying something new for the first time, you want to take your time and do it slowly. Make sure you’re relaxed and comfortable, and don’t apply too much pressure on yourself to have everything go perfectly the first time.
Everything, even using a vibrator, takes time and practice. So, be gentle, kind, and patient with yourself on this journey of self-discovery.
Don’t shy away from experimenting with different speeds, patterns, positions, and techniques to enhance pleasure. Treat it as a never-ending journey towards better orgasms and higher sexual satisfaction – there’s always something new to discover.
Some of the best beginner-friendly vibrators are: bullet vibrators, G-spot massagers, wand vibrators and suction toys. Depending on what type of stimulation you prefer, you may like internal toys better than external and vice versa.
When you’re ready to find the perfect vibrator for you, check out our best beginner-friendly toys.
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