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Everyone knows anal sex, but have you heard about something even better – anal massage? While the interest in anal sex for all genders is on the rise, anal penetration can be intimidating for beginners. For those curious to explore anal pleasure but not wanting to jump straight into penetration, an anal massage is the perfect place to start.
That’s why we put together this comprehensive anal massage guide that will be useful for beginners and more advanced anal practitioners. So, let’s talk about why anal massage is sexy, the best anal massage techniques, tips and positions.
What Is an Anal Massage?
Anal massage is an external stimulation of the sensitive area around the anus with your hands, sex toys, or mouth. It might involve massaging other intimate areas at the same time, and the buttocks. You might choose to use anal massage as a warm-up before anal sex, but it’s not necessary.
Why Give Your Partner an Anal Massage
Massaging any part of your body feels great. It’s relaxing, pleasant, and, in certain areas, can be highly arousing. One of those areas is the anus. Just like the genitals, the anus has thousands of sensitive nerve endings around it, which feel very pleasurable when stimulated, even without penetration for people with penis and people with vulvas.
How To Give a Mindblowing Anal Massage
To give your partner the best anal massage, we have a few tips for you:
Before You Start
Before you even attempt to give your partner an anal massage, it’s crucial that you sit down and discuss whether or not that’s something you both are interested in. Avoid having these conversations in the middle of sex because it might add pressure on your partner.
If anal massage is something you’re interested in exploring, the next thing you want to discuss is boundaries. Your partner might not want to explore penetration, even with a finger, so it’s important you both know each other’s boundaries before you get started.
Lastly, if you are incorporating kink into your anal massage like restraint, roleplay, or sensory deprivation, it might even be useful to establish safe words.
Anal Massage Hygiene Tips
There are some things related to hygiene you might want to do before an anal massage. The giving partner should always make sure their nails are trimmed and polished so you don’t accidentally scratch your partner – the skin around the anus is sensitive and thin. Also, it’s good to wash your hands well before you get started.
The receiving partner might want to freshen up before a massage by either taking a shower or using wet wipes. Whether or not you choose to groom around the anus area before a massage is up to you – do what makes you feel most sexy, confident, and relaxed.
Use Plenty of Lube
Lube is absolutely essential for anal massage, even if you won’t be engaging in penetration. Applying lube will enhance the sensations for the receiving partner, and it’ll allow the giving partner to massage the area much more easily without friction. Your favorite water-based lube is always a great choice – it’s mess-free, easy to clean up, and safe to use with condoms.
Start Slow and Build
To make the experience the best it can be for your receiving partner, make sure you start slow and build the tension slowly. So, before you even go for their anus, you might want to give them a full-body massage first. If you don’t want the full-body massage, then at least massage their buttocks and the area around to help your partner relax and ease into the experience.
Incorporate Your Favorite Vibrator
Once you and your partner have found your grove, you might want to incorporate your favorite vibe to help you enhance your anal massage. Most vibes will work – G-spot massager, clit vibe, massage wand, and even a suction vibe.
Apply lube to the vibe and gently massage the anus area with the vibe. You might want to start on lower vibration settings and build from there up.
Pressure Is Key
When using your fingers and hands to massage the anus, the pressure is key. You might start by applying less pressure and then increase it as you go. You might also change the pressure at different points of stimulation to create a variety of sensations. Play around and listen to your partner’s reactions to find the perfect spot.
Go Beyond the Anus
You don’t have to be stuck with only massaging the anus. Consider giving your partner a full erotic massage experience by stimulating their penis or vulva at the same time as you massage the anus, or simply alternate between different areas, building them towards an orgasm. If the position allows, you might even use your mouth to stimulate their genitals while you massage their anus with your fingers or a sex toy and vice versa.
Introduce Rimming
Rimming or analingus is using your mouth to pleasure the anus. Essentially it’s oral sex on the anus. Due to all those super sensitive areas around the anus, it can feel super pleasurable. And it’s a turn-on for many people.
So, if that’s something you’re interested in exploring, consider adding a bit of oral stimulation to your anal massage. Before you do that, though, make sure that the lube you’re using is edible and safe for consumption.
The Best Anal Massage Techiques
Now that you’re ready to give your partner an anal massage, let’s talk about the best techniques. No matter your experience level, everyone can easily do these with their partner. After trying out different techniques, you might want to combine them for the most pleasurable experience.
Circles
With a finger, draw a large circle around the rim of the anus. Start by going clockwise, and then switch it up and go to the other side. You might do this with one finger or incorporate two or three fingers.
Another technique is to draw smaller circles with one finger as you go around the rim of the anus. You may start off further away from the anus and make your way inward.
Stroke
This technique involves gently stroking the anus with your fingers. So, start with one finger and drag it over the anus from the top to the bottom. Repeat the stroke a couple of times. You might want to incorporate two or even three fingers for less targeted stimulation and to cover more surface.
Once you’re ready to switch it up, start from the bottom and stroke over the anus upwards. You might use one finger or two or more and see what your partner enjoys more.
Rub
A rubbing technique can be very pleasurable. With a finger, move down over the anus and then immediately up, gently rubbing the area. One-finger rub offers more targeted stimulation, but if you want to cover more surfaces and increase pleasure, incorporate two or three fingers. You might go slower or faster, depending on what your partner enjoys most.
Double stroke
This technique requires you to use both hands. Using one, or more fingers, stroke the area around the anus from the top to the bottom. Repeat the motion, taking the time to really massage the surface.
When you’re ready, switch things up. Using one or more fingers (thumbs might be most comfortable), stroke the area around the anus from the bottom to the top. See which way your partner likes it most.
Double rub
The double rub is the same technique as the rub technique but involves both hands. So, with one or more fingers, rub the area around the anus up and down. Play around with the pressure and speed to find the stimulation that feels the best for your partner.
The Best Anal Massage Positions
Lastly, we have to talk about the best positions for anal massage. Some positions might offer more access and feel more comfortable than others, so don’t shy away from experimenting to find the perfect position.
Doggy
The receiving partner is on all fours, and the giving partner is behind them. It’s a pretty basic and simple sex position that offers great access and comfort. If the receiving partner is flexible enough, they might lower their face to the surface, arching their back and using their hands to spread the cheeks, which can offer even more access to the giving partner.
Horizontal
The most comfortable position is when the receiving partner lays down on their stomach, and the giving partner straddles their legs or lower back or sits next to the receiving partner. The receiving partner can help the giving partner out by using their hands to spread their cheeks.
Against the Wall
You can also give an anal massage while standing! The receiving partner stands facing the wall. They might place their hands on the wall for support or use them to spread their cheeks while the giving partner kneels, sits, or squats behind them.
Bent Over
The receiving partner is bent down over their partner’s lap, the edge of the bed, sofa, or over the kitchen table. The giving partner stands sideways or behind them and gives the massage. In this position, the receiving partner can use their hands to help spread their cheeks. But if you desire to explore powerplay and restraint, you might have the receiving partner’s hands cuffed.
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