If you find yourself in a long-term relationship, you’ve probably experienced it: the routine of being together can be as threatening as it is great. The habits which comfort us also undermine our sense of adventure. This is especially true when it comes to intimacy and sometimes you want to discover something new.
Couple sex toys are a great way to enhance passion, deepen intimacy, and introduce some form of novelty into your relationship.
In this article, we recommend sex toys for romantic celebrations – anniversaries, birthdays, or just because.
Why Sex Toys Can Enhance Special Occasions
Novelty is a key element of passion. A vibrator for couples can introduce novelty without undermining the relationship because you’re embracing the new experience together.
Not only that – sex toys are the facilitators of moments of shared pleasure, which is one of the reasons we enjoy being in relationships.
Not all couples are ready to introduce a sex toy in their relationship. There are those who see the use of sex toys as defeat or not being enough, and even those who see the erotic object as a rival of sorts, capable of providing more pleasure or replacing human connection. There are also those who are afraid of becoming ‘addicted’ and no longer be able to experience pleasure without a toy involved.
All of these fears are unfounded – intimate toys for couples are simply an aid in bringing out our most adventurous sides, and yes, they can also help us experience more pleasure with our partners.
Best Sex Toys for Romantic Occasions
Couples’ Vibrators
Designed to be used by a couple and to enhance pleasure not only by stimulating the partners at the same time, but also by bringing the orgasm timing closer. An experience, the simultaneous orgasm, considered by many the icing on the cake of a particularly romantic moment.
Among the best toys for date night are penis rings like TOR 3. Super supple and flexible, TOR 3 is worn by the man around the penis during lovemaking, but its vibrating head also stimulates the woman’s clitoris in certain positions. In the case of a couples’ vibrator like TIANI 3, the woman inserts part of the toy in the vagina, leaving room for penetration. Thanks to its special ‘C’ shape and dual motors, TIANI 3 stimulates both partners, inside and out.
Remote-Controlled Toys
They are sex toys that can be used by one partner but controlled by the other. This makes them perfect for foreplay, power exchange games, or to simply focus on one partner.
Remote-controlled sex toys are also perfect for long-distance relationships. Some companies have apps with virtual chatrooms that allow partners to control each other’s devices.
Another much-loved use of these remote-controlled sex toys is in public, when one of the two partners wears the sex toy and the other regulates its functioning… one of the most charming forms of foreplay that technology has created for us.
Luxury and High-End Toys
Nothing says special occasion like the gift of a luxury sex toy which, with its premium materials, design and high-level of technology, make the experience of pleasure even more refined. Imagine receiving the gift of a couple’s toy with precious details – TIANI 24k is made with high-end silicone and 24k gold.
When it comes to intimate objects, especially if they mark a special moment, aesthetics and materials play a fundamental role. No one wants to find themselves, on Valentine’s Day or anniversary night, that’s noisy, cheap, or tasteless. Instead, solidify the night with a luxury toy that contributes to the specialty of the occasion.
Massage and Foreplay Enhancers
There’s an array of sensual accessories that manage to raise the temperature of the evening and, at the same time, mark its speciality. Think massage oils that can also be found in candles, warming lubricants, and feathery ticklers that can be used on partner’s erogenous zones.
You may not notice the absence of these kinds of accessories, but their presence makes a difference and allows you to create the perfect romantic atmosphere.
Bondage and Sensory Play for Beginners
Soft handcuffs, blindfolds to exclude the sight, floggers with very soft tails, bustiers with a sadomasochistic allure, perhaps completed with a pair of nipple clamps… there are so many BDSM accessories that can be used even by the most vanilla couple.
Trying something new, especially if that new thing feels forbidden, is a simple and effective way of creating excitement and complicity. Knowing that tonight we could be celebrating a special occasion with something new and slightly taboo is a sure way to make this date more unforgettable.
How To Introduce Sex Toys into Romantic Moments
First read: how to introduce the topic of sex toys and choose the best one for your relationship.
You can be as direct as ordering a toy and delivering it to your partner, which, of course, doesn’t mean you have to use it, but it’s a very direct way of piquing their curiosity.
Another direct, but not as risky approach, is by talking about it. If you have a good level of confidence and communication is not a problem for you, talking openly about your desires and fantasies can be as sexy as it is effective.
If the plans above aren’t for you, there are many indirect ways to make your special one understand that it’s a sex toy you’re curious about.
You can send the link to your favorite site or share a scene from a film in which the sex toy is the main character.
And here’s a few tips to ensure that the experience is equally enjoyable for both of you:
- Consent: Don’t force your hand if you see that your partner is not convinced about using a particular toy or erotic objects in general. There is a small window of convincing to be done, but it must be done with grace and without insistence. If you have reason to believe that what is an initial “no”, perhaps out of shyness or fear, can turn into an enthusiastic yes once the ice is broken, it’s fine to insist a little, but if the other’s refusal is categorical, you can do nothing but accept it and hope that, with time, they’ll change their mind. Or that you will.
- Choosing together: The surprise effect can be exciting, but what’s more intriguing is the anticipation – checking out websites dedicated to pleasure, imagining what this or that toy could do for you, and, finally, settling on one and waiting for it to arrive.
- Communication: Whether the new object is a disappointment or discovery, brings pleasure to both partners or just one… the important thing is to communicate freely. If the first toy you choose isn’t for you, it’s important to realize it as soon as possible to move on to better options immediately. The realization might also be that sex toys don’t belong in your partnered sex, and that’s fine too.
Choosing the Right Toy for Your Relationship
It’s impossible from the outside to understand the most intimate workings of a relationship, just like it’s impossible to recommend the perfect toy – it’s up to your and your partner – but here are some tips:
- Preferences and comfort levels: Understanding the type of stimulation desired is only the first step. There are those who may prefer a vibrating object and those who may prefer a dildo. Some love phallic shapes while others prefer objects with a less obvious shape. All these characteristics must be taken into consideration when choosing an object that is going to be shared. There may also be people who enjoy simply watching their partner, or being watched while they use an erotic object, but even in that case, it is still a couple’s choice!
- Features: When choosing a sex toy to use together, the needs of both partners must be met, and there are some characteristics that become even more important when enjoyed together. The quietness of the object, for example. Nothing is worse than being distracted by a toy that is too noisy during intimacy. Equally important is ease of use and not having to deal with crazy buttons that are difficult to manage or not functional during a sometimes small window of arousal. Finally, safe materials are also fundamental in having peace of mind.
Conclusion
Sex toys can be a great way to rekindle intimacy. There are many models, even those created specifically for couples. It’s important to choose them together, keep communication open, and experiment playfully until you find the one that best suits the both of you.
There are a thousand other ways to keep the flame alive, but incoporating sex toys can create fertile ground for other explorations.
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