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Ahh, the magical prostate! A walnut-sized gland found in men that, when stimulated, can create a whirlwind of sexual bliss and full-body orgasms.
And while massaging the prostate has been ‘a thing’ since the late 19th century, when doctors began performing it to treat inflammation aka prostatitis, it soon became a practice enjoyed by penis owners worldwide as it’s a one-way ticket to pleasure town.
So, if you’re an owner of a prostate, here’s our simple step-by-step guide that’ll hopefully take you to new realms of sexual pleasure.
How To Milk Your Prostate
Step One: Prepare for Ultimate Safety
Doing things such as cutting your nails, having a latex glove, emptying the bladder and the rectum, and having a generous amount of lube on-hand will make the experience safer and a lot more pleasurable.
Step Two: Get Comfortable
Assume a position that makes you feel comfortable and relaxed, but that also gives you easy access for anal stimulation. This could be lying on your side or even getting in the doggy-style position. If you’re opting for a latex glove (or a condom placed over the finger), you can slip that on, and coat it with your chosen lube. Applying lube around the entrance of the anus is also encouraged for a smoother and more comfortable glide.
Step Three: Insert a Finger
Slowly insert one finger into the anus, and feel along the inside wall of the rectum (the side closest to the belly button). About two inches inside, and you should feel a small, round bump. Once you’ve found it, you may feel as though you’re going to pee, but this is normal (and means that you’ve found the right spot). This is also why it’s a good idea to pee beforehand so as not to confuse the sensation. When you’re comfortable with one finger, you could add a second for even more stimulation.
Step Four: Come Hither
Once you’ve got your finger(s) on the prize, and you’re feeling relaxed with no pain or discomfort, you could persist to do the ‘come hither’ motion, which some say produces the best results. At the same time, you or a partner could stimulate other erogenous zones to amplify the intensity. Some find that prostate stimulation coupled with penis stimulation is most pleasurable.
Step Five: Prostate Massagers
While this step isn’t mandatory in order to experience earth-shattering prostate orgasms, it definitely has a way of making things easier and even more pleasurable. When you’re comfortable with your fingers, or you’d just like to start off with a prostate massager, there are some incredible toys available that’ll do all the hard work for you. A prostate massager sex toy will often be bigger than one or two fingers however, so always remember to go slow and steady.
If you feel any pain or discomfort, call it a day, and try again when you’re ready. And if you find that prostate stimulation is always painful or uncomfortable, consult your healthcare provider because there may be an underlying issue in need of treatment.
What is Prostate Milking?
Prostate milking is when a prostate owner massages their prostate until a thin, milky fluid called ‘prostate fluid’ is released. The terms “prostate milking” and “prostate massage” are largely synonymous—the difference is really that milking involves massage to the point that fluid is released through the penis.
It may seem slightly daunting for some, as one of the most common questions asked is, “Does prostate milking hurt?” For most, it doesn’t. On the contrary, it can be entirely pleasurable and can lead to intense orgasms that some say are more intense than their typical orgasms.
The thing about prostate milking, however, is that it does take a bit of practice and exploring. It’s an activity that some may not be so willing to try, as the prostate is found inside the body. To stimulate the prostate directly, one needs to access it by inserting something (like a finger or toy) into the anus.
There’s still a big taboo for men who want to experiment with anal play (which is quite ridiculous, as it’s the gateway to uninhibited ecstasy for many men). We say to forget the preconceived notions and stereotypes surrounding anal pleasure if you want to reap the potential rewards.
Where is the Prostate & Why is it Important?
Before we dive into how to milk the prostate, let’s whizz through a quick anatomy lesson.
The prostate sits just under the bladder, and wraps around the urethra (the tube that drains urine from the bladder). Why is the prostate important? Well, “the prostate is critical to normal reproduction, as it produces a fluid that makes up approximately 20% of the semen. This milky fluid contains various substances that are important for sperm function,” says urologist Paul Turek.
As men age, the prostate tends to get bigger, making it easier to find (but also potentially creating problems, such as frequent or difficult urination). And despite the fact that this gland has the power to shower you with massive orgasms, research also suggests that massage of the prostate can help to relieve symptoms of prostate enlargement. Prostate massage can ease fluid blockages, keeping the prostate nice and healthy.
Other research suggests that prostate massage could also help those living with chronic prostatitis (inflammation of the prostate).
Basically, the prostate is something that deserves a bit of TLC, not only for reproductive health but also for bouts of sexual satisfaction.
Prostate Milking for Sexual Pleasure
It’s at this point that you’re probably thinking, “I have amazing orgasms from penile masturbation, why would I dare massage my prostate?” And the thing about that is, prostate milking can potentially give you an entirely different kind of climax.
“The prostate-induced orgasm hits differently because it is initiated from inside the body.” says sexologist, Goody Howard. When one orgasms via prostate stimulation, it contracts more times before climax and can create a slew of erotic sensations and, sometimes, a larger ejaculatory output. In fact, many who’ve experienced a prostate orgasm say that it induces a full-body orgasm unlike anything they’ve ever enjoyed.
Another potential benefit to prostate milking is that some men may find that the refractory period is shorter (because they don’t have to wait for their penis to get erect again), which means that prostate orgasms are sometimes associated with the possibility of multiple orgasms.
Are you ready for a new kind of orgasmic sensation? Go on, you’ve got nothing to lose and oh so much to gain!
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